Hey hey! When I started this blog I planned to post pretty much all the time! But because I don’t get much time to myself, and I had postnatal depression I’ve really neglected my little space on the internet. I came across the new mum tag (originally created by Youtuber Emily Norris) over on Writing With Pryde, I really enjoyed it and thought it would be a great way for you to get to know me so here goes.
1. Favourite mum hack?
Being able to change a baby on my lap! My mother in law showed me how to do this when I first had my daughter and it was a game changer! So whether I was at a friend’s house, on my sofa or in a public (but obviously away from people) place with dirty/inadequate change facilities, I was able to change my daughter with no bother. It’s becoming harder to change my 9 month old on my lap now because she loves to wriggle away but it has been so beneficial!
2. Most embarrassing mum moment?
I haven’t had many to be honest but last month I took Aniyah to the park and was sat on a bench with her. She is at that annoying stage where she keeps pulling down my top and I don’t even breastfeed! So as we were sat on this bench when some people happened to be walking past, she decided that was the perfect moment to pull my top down and expose my bra. It could have been worse but I was still a bit mortified!
3. What part of the day do you love the most?
I never thought I’d say this because I’m not a morning person, but I love the morning because my daughter always has a massive smile on her face when she sees me from her cot. It’s really lovely because I know she’s happy to see me and motivates me to get our day started.
4. What part of the day do you like the least?
Bedtime! Omg is isn’t half a battle! My daughter really puts her all into fighting sleep when I can tell she’s exhausted, and can sometimes take 2/3 hours to fall and stay asleep! It can mean that I don’t get ‘me time’ so I can unwind from the day which I find really frustrating.
5. The worst thing someone said to you when you were pregnant?
When I was around 8 months pregnant with a very visible bump, I was getting something out of my car boot when a man old enough to be my dad approached me trying to chat me up! I was so disgusted and he couldn’t see the problem. He didn’t say anything rude but the act itself was concerning to say the least.
6. Baby name you didn’t agree on?
Kye! I love this name for a boy but my partner doesn’t like it. Luckily we had a girl because we didn’t agree on a single boy’s name!
7. Do you co-sleep?
Not anymore but for the first 2/3 months of my daughter’s life she slept in our bed. Our Next2Me cot ended up being a very expensive but useful bedside table! My daughter eventually stayed in her Next2Me co-sleeper cot but we would still co-sleep on the odd occasion.
8. Something you bought but never used?
The nappy bin! It ended up being a lot more effort using it compared to just using nappy bags and chucking it in the bin.
9. 3 hospital bag must-haves?
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I wrote a blog post on what I packed in my hospital bag but my first essential is definitely Spritz for Bits*. Spritz for Bits is a soothing and pain relieving spray which aids the recovery of perineal tears, episiotomy and c-section wounds. My other essentials are definitely big black pants and comfortable maternity joggers.
10. Are you routine mum or a go with the flow mum and what does bedtime look like?
I’m very much going with the flow at the moment but I’d say we have a loose routine that happened naturally. I follow my daughter’s cues for bedtime which can happen between 8:30 and 10pm. As I need to refresh Aniyah’s curly hair to style it for the day I give her a bath in the morning, so a bath isn’t always included in her bedtime routine. I usually change my daughter into her sleepsuit, give her a bottle then rock her to sleep with white noise playing in the background. Once she’s in a deep sleep I just put her in her cot, and have a break from mommy duties until my daughter wakes up again.
11. What type of labour did you have? What pain relief did you choose?
A horrific one to say the least! It’s very hard to be concise about my labour because it lasted over a week! My daughter was lying back to back so the pain was VERY INTENSE, and my labour wasn’t progressing as Aniyah was stuck in her cord so unable to move down and dilate my cervix. You can read my birth story here. Before I had Aniyah I was kept in hospital for two days and had pethidine. After I had my waters broken I had gas and air which made me feel really dizzy then I begged for the epidural I initially stated I would never have!
12. Have you ever been mum shamed?
No actually, and I hope it never happens because being a mum is really hard.
13. The biggest challenges you’ve faced since becoming a mum?
Sleep deprivation! Before I had Aniyah I needed at least 7 hours just to function, and for the last 9 months I’ve been running on fumes just to get through the day. Broken sleep really took its toll on me during the first few months of being a mom but thankfully my daughter now sleeps through most nights.
14. The best bit of advice you have ever been given – Biggest piece of advice you’d give to a new mum?
My advice to a new mum (which is also the best advice I’ve been given) would be to trust your instincts; no one knows your baby better than you do, so do what feels right. I’d also say to be honest – if you’re struggling, feeling depressed or just need someone to hold your baby so you can nap, speak up! Earlier this year I realised I’d been suffering from postnatal depression and didn’t want to speak about it at first. But I actually felt more empowered to tell people and own it.
15. Who’s your mum crush?
My mum crush is definitely Patricia Bright. There’s not much diversity in the Mum Bloggersphere and as she’s Black British and a similar age, I can relate to her a lot. Patricia inspires me because she has achieved so much! The creator of this tag Emily Norris is my second mum crush; I love her speed cleaning videos on her Youtube channel and think she is really down to earth.
16. And who do you tag?
I now tag the following bloggers to complete this tag:
Coralie over at My Life as Mum has also done the tag, you can read her answers here.
If you enjoyed this tag you may also like The Parenting Alphabet Challenge. Feel free to leave a comment and let me know what your favourite mum hack is!
Viv Simone x